The Truth
November 4th, 2005If you met me today, you’d probably think “Wow, she’s fun and remarkably well adjusted”, but the truth is I spent many of my teen years in a panic. I was worried because I was *gasp* a virgin (hi maaa), at a time when lots of my peers weren’t.
Now, every time I hear a teen girl lamenting her chastity, I say “Cheer up, being a virgin is cool. Besides, I’m sure it’s not you. It’s probably just that your boyfriend of two years, the guy you’d consider spending eternity with, well, he likely prefers steak to tuna, because he is gay – really.”
At least that was my experience.
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Dear hannihaus readers, have you dated a boy who likes boys? Share your truth at Hänni’s Friday confessional. C-O-M-M-E-N-T and come clean.
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November 4th, 2005
Well, I’m a reader and I can definitely say that I’ve never dated a boy who liked boys. Oh, you meant FEMALE readers? Ok. My bad.
But I can imagine that was pretty traumatic for you. Still, you’re happy now and hopefully he is too.
November 4th, 2005
We technically never dated - but this boy in high school with whom I went back and forth, we had our ups and downs, he made me cry many a nights, but made me have that oh so good feeling many other times, turned out to be gay later. Needless to say my monkey never got his banana. But I don’t think I ever freaked out about being a teen virgin, since that was my choice rather than other people’s.
November 4th, 2005
Hanni - I was a Virginian until age 20! Messed around with a girl in high school, but never got down in the jungle until about 20. It was my choice though. I wanted it to be with someone that meant something. Turned out it ended up being with a good female friend after a night of heavy drinking. Hehehee. Oh well!
Never dated a girl that flipped teams. I breifly dated a girl that was bi. She was very interesting. Interesting indeed.
November 4th, 2005
My friend and I made sure to lose our virginity before senior year, because we just couldnt deal with being virgin seniors. Though the sex itself was horrible, and I dated the guy for a long time afterward even though he, also, turned horrible, I think the virginity lost actually boosted my self-esteem.
November 4th, 2005
In college I seemed to develop huge crushes on gay boys, most of whom did not yet know that they were gay. I started to get a serious complex by my junior year.
November 4th, 2005
I currently have entirely too many gay crushes. And what is worse, is I become flustered around them. But no, I have never dated someone that turned out to be gay.
Being a virgin IS cool. I wish I stayed one longer than 19 years…
November 4th, 2005
And by gay crushes… I mean crushes on gay men… I don’t know if that came across right
November 4th, 2005
MAT - No, no boys can write in too. I am all about gender equality. And yes, my gay ex-boyfriend, CFTP, is *very* happy with his new love, Richard (who looks like Nick Lachey btw!)
Dima - Ha ha. Your teen monkey didn’t love bananas. I also had a bit of a back-and-forth with this hottie who looks like Ashton Kutcher. He was a tortured artist and liked to make jokes about how everyone said he was gay b/c he went to art school. If he wasn’t already, I think he secretly wanted to be gay.
ScottyGee - I have heard this same story many times. Alcohol + good friends has likely lead to many a night of debauchery.
Adrienne - Wow - so this loss of V was a calculate effort on behalf of you and your friend? Peer pressure is such a bitch.
Amanda B - I can’t say I had crushes on gay boys (well at least they weren’t outted at the time), but I did have a good gay friend who had a mini crush on Angelface. They had the same class in college, and when Aaron (he posts here as Asha) found out who I was dating he was like “Good catch darling. That guy is hot!”
Erin - Well it’s easy to do. Gay men, in many respects, are far superior to straight. They dress better, they know how to use, and appreciate product, and they have a vast knowledge in regards to designer heels and handbags.
November 4th, 2005
His name was Chris. He was beyond cute. I had known him since the second grade (well, he was in first, but I started school early, so he wasn’t technically a younger man) when we went to Catholic school together.
Reconnecting in high school, we went out a few times. He was such a good kisser. It went no further than that. I found out a couple years later that he came out and had gotten AIDS. His roommate, a friend of our from high school, told me. That was in the early 90’s, so something tells me he didn’t win that battle. It’s sad to think of him.
November 4th, 2005
Hanni - please don’t spread rumors like that! My monkey ALWAYS loved bananas. Just some of the bananas were a little rotten and my monkey had banana standards, and waited for the better bananas to come along.
November 5th, 2005
mrtl - that’s a very sad story. Sorry for your loss.
Dima - Gotcha.
November 5th, 2005
I personally have never dated a guy who ended up being gay, but I have a good friend who has… she almost married one of them. Yes, one of them. She’s dated several. Two who ended up definitely being gay, and one who put “either” in the “Are you looking to date men or women?” box on a later online dating ad. Eek! I think she’s finally broken her pattern, though.
November 6th, 2005
heh heh heh…WITHOUT NAMING NAMES (or coming close, please) i think we both know someone i dated who *may* have had the hots for bwick and DID watch gay porn. aye or nay?
November 7th, 2005
LizzyBennet - Wow, your friend totally has gaydar and doesn’t even know it. Snikes.
Smug ellie - hehe, considering he was more interested in checking out bwick’s package than your boobah’s, i’m gonna have to give a big, fat aye!